Losing a job is pretty tough. It doesn’t really matter if it was about how you performed or it was because of nothing. It’s still very difficult to face and understand, especially if you are all that your family has. But if you try to think deeply, just like any challenge or ordeal in life, you will find out that one must gauge his success in life in the way he handles the challenges he faces, and the number of times he has won over these challenges.
Recalling my friend’s dad who lost his job and not overcoming the frustration and anxiety and the shame is now coming to me again. He had committed suicide then, but luckily he failed at it. I get why he did it. He had four kids with no other support – he was a single dad. It was a big, bad blow to his ego and self-esteem too.
Through the years, people have been in and out of jobs, and often this is not their fault. This year, many will lose their jobs again. But whatever the reason is for losing a job, it’s how well you respond to a big obstacle in your life that matters. When you’re looking for a job, it’s not a secret that character is everything. Positive thinking will put you on top of the list of prospects – easily. Losing a job might even be an opportunity for you to look back and realize that it’s what made you stronger than ever – that’s if you have THE character.
I believe in what Confucius said – that by nature we are alike. No one wants to be rejected. However, we become different in the way we deal with the rejection, with the job loss that is. Let us take a look at some of the habits that can separate you from the group, put your name on the list of chosen ones, and get your job back or get an even better, if not the best, job offer.
Habits You Should Practice
- Focus on the future. When you’re anxious, worried, and depressed from a job loss, it’s so easy to stay stuck there with all the regret and remorse for something you might not even have control over. This doesn’t only fuel insecurity and self-pity, but it also removes that power you have over yourself. Try your best not to get stuck in the past and concentrate instead on what you can do right now. Talk to people who can help you and start making a list of what you need to do and where you need to go to kick start that job hunt immediately.
- Don’t think that being unemployed is who you are as a person – a failure, a nothing, and a wreck. That is not your status. That is just a roadblock that you need to surpass. It’s not who you are, and it will never define you. Marty Seligman, a psychologist, stated that one of the biggest factors that will determine success from a life challenge of any type is how one interprets that challenge. So what we should do is look at the job loss as a chance to reassess oneself, to build more strength and versatility, and to learn how to better tackle failure. This is the best move to make if you want to get that job back or get a promotion! Accept the failure, recognize the reasons why it happened, and be confident that you’ll get over it.
- When you wallow, don’t mingle with those who will drag you down even more. Their negative emotions will get the better of you, as people that surround you will also affect how you feel about yourself. Don’t join the pity party; instead, make it your intention to look for a company that will encourage you to stay positive, those who will lend you inspiring movies and books to read when you get home. Show your family that you’re not giving up on yourself and them so that they won’t feel anxious themselves.
- Don’t forget about taking care of yourself. This is too important not because you’re narcissistic but because your physical well-being is as vital as your emotional and mental well being. Don’t be that someone from the movies that you who just eat a bowl of popcorn and drink beer all day. Don’t look jobless! Get fit and stay healthy. Exercise and release the negative toxins. Pump up those endorphins so you’ll be feeling alive and eager to show your best on your job interview today.
- Feel good by doing good. When you practice kindness, you become addicted to helping others because it makes you feel worthy and appreciate and grateful for what you have despite the job loss. Helping others is a great mood booster – better than antidepressants. Also, volunteering in a community activity would mean avoiding being a couch potato and not getting stuck in the past.
Losing your job is indeed something to be sad about, but nothing to be feared and frustrated about for the rest of your life. Be different from the others. Get moving. Don’t let it rip you of what you’re about to discover – the best opportunities for those who persevere.